Logical solutions cannot always solve psychological problems.
When life is simpler, it’s easier to autopilot through it. Things aren’t that bad after all, right? So nothing needs to change, right?
But as you’ve likely found, when our pain and problems start to overwhelm our ability to keep the ship steady, our mind (and body) does exactly what it was built to do: our mind’s “over-protective, over-analytical, problem-solving” nature logically, sorry, instinctively starts telling us what’s coming, what’s wrong, and what to do.
While our mind can’t steer the ship, it doesn’t quite trust us to either… So it does its job the only way it can: through thoughts and feelings shaped by old lessons we’ve lived and internalized. It’s trying to help, even when it isn’t. So we do whatever it takes to “feel better” (or at least “not bad”). It works until it doesn’t, then it begins to pull us away from what actually matters. No amount of self-care, positivity, validation, or screen time seems to help. Rather than living a life, we are stuck surviving.
Hello, I’m Stanly 👋🏼
I’m passionate about helping thoughtful, caring, hard-working people who are worn out by their own minds (people who likely were never taught why their mind does what it does or what they could do with it).
Like many others, I was taught that certain thoughts or feelings were “bad” and others were “good”, that our worth depends on achievement, and that struggling is something to hide and mask. While this may have helped me achieve or accomplish things on the surface, they also gradually distorted my sense of self and reality, developing into excessive mental habits of catastrophic worrying and self-criticism and doubt. I wasted years arguing with my mind about what was “true/good/enough/safe”. It turns out that the appearance of happiness or success ≠ true inner peace and satisfaction.
The problem usually isn’t a lack of effort, and it isn’t that our mind is broken. Our mind learned to protect us in ways that once made sense, and it still believes they’re necessary, even when they only help in the short term. My goal isn’t to argue your mind out of that role: it’s to understand what it’s been protecting so it doesn’t have to work so hard keeping you safe. Over time, this makes room for us to take the lead again, more present in our lives, guided by what truly matters to us.
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I have more than a decade of clinical, managerial, and supervisory experience in a variety of adult mental health settings:
I began in community mental health, supporting people with serious mental illness, often made harder by substance use and limited access to resources and support. It was there I learned how serious mental illness profoundly weighs on families and friends, not just the person living with it.
I then worked in intensive outpatient and partial hospitalization programs, providing structured, intensive treatment for adults who needed more than weekly therapy, and regularly covered inpatient and outpatient substance use and detox units. That work taught me to see the humanity in people at their lowest points, and how much capacity for change remains even in the darkest moments.
Most recently, I spent several years as a therapist integrated into primary care, working alongside physicians to address mental health where people already go for care. Many patients never would have sought out therapy on their own, and seeing how much easy access helped them get support they might otherwise never have received reshaped how I think about mental health care.
In 2022, I launched this website and my online private practice, mid-COVID-19 pandemic. While I still believe nothing beats in-person work, the ability to work with people online has unlocked the ability to reach people all over California. This has been an extremely precious advantage, although it’s surreal to get so personally deep with people I will never physically meet!
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Doctor of Psychology (PsyD)
CalSouthern University, in progress (est. grad 2027)
Doctoral Project: Systematic review of mechanisms of change in cognitive restructuring and metacognitive interventions for repetitive negative thinkingLicensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW)
California Board of Behavioral Sciences, 2017Master of Social Work (MSW), Concentration in Mental Health
University of Southern California, 2014Bachelor of Science (BS) in Human Services
California State University, Fullerton, 2012
What people often bring
Caught up in your head
Worry and overthinking · a harsh inner critic, perfectionism, and shame · feeling down, stuck, or lost · frustration and irritability
Running on empty
Burnout in healthcare, caregiving, education, law, and other demanding work · toxic workplaces · sleep thrown off by stress and a busy mind
Coping that backfires
Substances, screens, games, procrastination, or anything else that brings quick relief but keeps you stuck
Life in transition
New parenthood, including postpartum anxiety and depression · stepping into adulthood · career changes and retirement · relationship strain · separation and divorce · grief and loss
Who I often work with
Men · Asian Americans and children of immigrants · LGBTQ+
Don’t see your situation here? Reach out anyway. The free 15-minute consultation call is a good way to find out whether we’re a fit!
How I work
Understand the pattern
We start by mapping what keeps you stuck: the thoughts, feelings, urges, and habits, and how they feed each other. We also look at context, because your history, relationships, and current pressures shape these patterns as much as anything inside you.
Change how you relate to your mind
When a thought points to something that genuinely needs to change, we look at it honestly. When the same thoughts loop no matter what you do, we focus less on what they say and more on what they’re trying to protect. That often means getting to know the parts of you that worry, criticize, or shut down, rather than fighting them.
Move toward what matters
Insight helps, but change happens in daily life. We’ll clarify what you care about and turn it into small, realistic steps you practice between sessions, adjusting as life gets in the way. Slips are part of the process, not proof it isn’t working.
No two people get stuck in quite the same way, so there’s no set script. A diagnosis can be part of the picture, but it rarely explains how your struggle actually works. I focus on what keeps it going, and how those pieces interact with each other and with the rest of your life. We’ll go at a pace that feels workable, and you’ll always have a say in where we focus. My approach draws mainly on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Internal Family Systems (IFS), with elements of CBT.
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Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
Developed by Steven Hayes, Kirk Strosahl, and Kelly Wilson in the 1980s and 1990s, ACT aims to build psychological flexibility: staying present with what’s hard, making room for it, and still acting on what you care about. A core skill, called defusion, is stepping back to notice thinking as it happens, so a thought can be seen as a thought rather than a fact or a command. In my work, ACT sets the overall direction, and that shift from what a thought says to how you relate to it is central, especially with worry and rumination.Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Developed by family therapist Richard Schwartz in the 1980s, IFS applies systems thinking to the inner world. It sees the mind as made up of parts. Protectors, like the worrier, the critic, or the part that numbs out, often guard more vulnerable parts carrying old pain. Beneath them is a calm, curious, compassionate Self that can lead once those protectors trust it. In my work, IFS brings compassion to the parts of you that resist change, and its systems lens fits how I see problems: not as one broken piece, but as parts interacting, each for a reason.The Unified Protocol (UP)
Developed by David Barlow and colleagues at Boston University in the 2000s, the Unified Protocol targets the common threads behind anxiety, depression, and related struggles rather than treating each diagnosis separately. It focuses on how we react to our own emotions: avoiding them, fearing them, or acting on them in ways that backfire. It builds mindful awareness of emotions and cognitive flexibility, which means noticing the automatic interpretations that come with strong feelings and holding them more loosely, rather than simply swapping in “better” thoughts. In my work, the UP keeps emotions at the center and reinforces my focus on what drives problems rather than what they’re labeled.Roots
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), rooted largely in Aaron Beck’s work in the 1960s, was a major part of my early training. Its insight that thoughts, feelings, and behaviors keep each other going still shapes how I map problems, and my doctoral research compares it with metacognitive approaches that focus on how we relate to thinking itself. Over time, my work has moved from mainly evaluating thoughts toward psychological flexibility, toward seeing people as whole systems in context, and toward building lives around values and meaning.Philosophy kept leading me to the same places. The Stoics taught that we’re disturbed less by events than by our judgments about them, and that our effort belongs to what we can control: our own choices and conduct. CBT’s founders pointed to the Stoics as forerunners, and ACT’s focus on values-based action over controlling feelings echoes them closely. Buddhism describes how resisting pain adds a “second arrow” of suffering, and it offers mindful, compassionate awareness instead. That idea runs through ACT’s acceptance, the UP’s mindful approach to emotion, and IFS’s Self, which Schwartz has linked to ideas found in many contemplative traditions.
Existential thought holds that meaning isn’t handed to us. Viktor Frankl’s logotherapy adds that meaning can be found even in suffering, along with the freedom to choose our stance toward what happens. Frankl’s techniques of deliberately inviting what we fear, and of turning attention away from self-focused worry toward something meaningful, anticipate ACT’s willingness and values work and the UP’s emotion exposures. Finally, pragmatism, from William James and John Dewey, judges an idea by what it does in a person’s life rather than by abstract truth. ACT is built on that same standard of what works, and it’s why I care less about which theory is “right” than about what actually helps you.
I’m not certified in these approaches, but they inform my work through continuing education and training.
Insurances & Fees
I’m in-network through Octave Behavioral Health and work off its platform. Octave handles the insurance side, and after our free call I’ll set you up with them directly. What you pay per session depends on your plan’s copay, coinsurance, or deductible, so it’s worth checking your mental health benefits with your insurer. I can work with:
Aetna
Anthem Blue Cross of California
Blue Shield of California
Centivo
Cigna/Evernorth
Health Net/MHN
Prime Health
Private Pay
I keep a small number of private-pay spots at $150 per session. Payment comes directly to me with no billing company in between, and I’ve set the rate to cover the real costs of running a practice, not to charge what the market will bear. If you’re paying privately, you have the right to a Good Faith Estimate of your expected costs.
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Please provide 24-hour notice of appointment cancellation. Cancellations made in less than 24 hours prior to the appointment time or missing an appointment without notice of cancellation will incur a late cancellation fee of $100.
You can reschedule by messaging/calling me or contacting Octave.
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Under Section 2799B-6 of the Public Health Service Act, health care providers and health care facilities are required to provide a good faith estimate of expected charges for items and services to individuals who are not enrolled in a plan or coverage or a Federal health care program, or not seeking to file a claim with their plan or coverage both orally and in writing, upon request or at the time of scheduling health care items and services. To request a good faith estimate, submit an email request to Stanly Tran, LCSW at therapy@stanlytran.com. A good faith estimate will be provided within 3 business days upon request. To learn more about your right to a good faith estimate, click here or call (800) 985-3059.
Fees are set to cover business overhead (subject to change; you will be notified a month in advance of fee adjustments).